What is more valuable, humility or confidence?
It seems like there are two routes to take when trying to connect with other people. For someone to take an interest in another, she needs to appear likable, and we can all get really bogged down by this. What is likable? How can we become more likable? Some emphasize the importance of being humble, while others say things such as, “confidence is key.” I can see the value in both of these traits, yet they are almost the complete opposite of each other.
To me, humility means being mindful of others and less focused on ourselves. When talking to other people, whether just meeting them or having been friends for a while, it’s always nice to focus on them. Ask them questions and genuinely take an interest in them. People take comfort in having another person show a consideration for their lives.
Confidence, on the other hand, can prove valuable while connecting with others as well. Sometimes it’s really hard not to dwell on our own shortcomings or even just how others see us. When this happens, sometimes its best to play the role of someone who’s secure with herself so that we don’t appear meek or insecure. There’s definitely a fine line between confidence and arrogance though, and it can be hard not to overstep it. Unlike with humility, if we play the confidence card, we could wind up talking more about ourselves, or worrying even more about how we appear than before.
I want to ask you guys, my readers, which of these values they find to be more important. What approach do you take in your life so that other people find you interesting, down to earth, or friendly? Is there a balance? What could people do who are really focused on how they appear and can’t seem to break free from it?
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